I am back with another one of Michelle Wards GPP Crusades. This one is about your final wishes. I knew I would be participating in this one because I believe in preparing for....well, you know....it's going to happen. It's just a matter of when and no one knows when.
In my family we tend to go pretty quickly. We have kidney disease and with weakened immune systems the weirdest strain of bacteria can take us out....in a heart beat.
So, I have recorded my funeral music. No one wants to talk about it. Not even my husband. But I insist because it's what I want.
My music is great. Have you ever heard Daniel Rodriguez sing Amazing Grace? It's the best and it's on there. The Prayer by Charlotte Church, Time to Say Goodbye by Sarah Brightman and of course Seasons of Love from RENT.
My daughter, Holly said not to put Ave Maria on this disc because it makes her cry. Well, I thought isn't she going to be crying anyway? But I honored her wishes and deleted it, but I have another Ave Maria...yes there's more than one. This one is by Paul Schwartz and is hauntingly beautiful. I did have a funky version by the Opera Babes.
Topping it off with some music from John Rutters Requiem including the singing of the 23rd Psalm.
Yes, you could say I have given some thought to my final wishes. I have the photo picked out should I have a closed casket. The casket decision is up to the family.
As for flowers...I stand with my Mom on this one. She always said she wanted flowers when she was living....not when she dies. Check! Just throw in a few pink roses.
Ashes? I told my husband to turn the ashes into a diamond and make it into a ring. I don't think he would do this for himself. He is not a jewelry guy. But should he go first that is what I intend to do with his ashes and then I can keep him with me forever.
Of course before any of this takes place, my organs will be donated if they can be. And everyone knows this!
One thing that Michelles crusade made me think of that I hadn't before was leaving behind some letters and cards. Maybe cards for my Grandsons' graduations with their savings bonds. Little things like that.
I believe that you really should let your family know in advance what your final wishes are. Maybe if you can't talk to them, then write it all down and put it in a safe place.
Remember....Life is uncertain....eat dessert first!!
And remember that you can live on in someone else by organ and tissue donation. Think green and recycle yourself.